10 years ago today

10 years ago today, at this exact time, I was eating Krispy Kreme donuts and getting tiny little flowers woven into my curls. I was nervous, but relieved – finally, we were getting married. I think this is probably a crazy thing for a 22-year-old to feel, but to me it felt like an eternity from the time my husband and I met until we got married.


I have a letter that I wrote to a friend of mine when S and I first met. I was still so, so young. And in the letter I told her I had met this new boy and then in tiny tiny letters I wrote "I think I might marry him." That was years before we actually got married, but I always knew.

It's funny, because I was never the kind of girl who planed her wedding for years. I didn't care to have a million people there, I didn't want a poofy white dress and a bunch of bridesmaids. I would have probably happily just worn my jeans to to the courthouse and signed a marriage license and had that have been that. I just wanted to be with him. But our wedding was beautiful. It was small and full of tiny sparks of humor. Our reception had no DJ or anything like that. My dad and I danced together to an awful Tom Jones song and it was wonderful.


S and I honeymooned on Jekyll Island (after a brief, fun whirlwind few days at Disney), just like my parents had done. Jekyll in February is pretty deserted, which is wonderful. We rode horses on the beach, traveled around to find the best Brunswick stew, lounged around at the super fancy hotel. We stayed for almost two weeks. It was decadent and even at that point in our lives when it was just us and our responsibilities were entry-level jobs and no kids, we still knew it was decadent. We always said we'd go back for our tenth anniversary. And even before all of this happened, we knew we wouldn't really get back there that soon. I wonder if we realized what a magical time it was when we were there, but I think we did. That's one reason why I love him so much. He forces me to live in the moment even when I can't stop my brain from fast-forwarding or rewinding.

He is my rock. My steady hand. The straight man to my bumbling humor. The Jack to my Liz. He takes care of me and I take care of him – but in completely different ways.

In some ways, two people could not be more different. But that's what works.

Also, he enjoys vacuuming and ironing. How could I not be in love?

10 years today. Wow.


13 thoughts on “10 years ago today

  1. Congratulations to 10! That’s awesome. You guys are so obviously each others rocks. Keep each other strong through what you are going through. I’m glad that you did get some time to reflect on what today is. Hang in there mama.


  2. Happy Anniversary you two. I hope that you’re able to get a few minutes alone in the midst of today’s craziness to reconnect and take a deep breath together. What a blessing you both are to each other. Here’s to another 10, and 10 more after that, and 10 more after that, and…


  3. Congrats! You may not make it back to the island exactly at your 10th anniversary, but maybe for your 20th. Sometimes life makes us readjust the lofty dreams we have made. I’ve had to change a few of my own. Here’s hoping Ike gives you an extra special poopy anniversary present, a gift that you never would have anticipated wanting ten years ago. šŸ™‚


  4. I thought that I’d already posted, but I wanted to say happy aniversary. You both look so beautiful in those photos, and I hope your marriage is strengthened by all the stuff you are going through. My thoughts are with you, admiring your humor and beauty.


  5. Congratulations to you both!! May you continue to be each other’s rock. We are very proud of both of you. Some day you may get to go back with Ike-a-saurus in tow…


  6. And 10 years ago I was there – wow seems like just yesterday on some days!!!! Congratulations Kari and Stephen – this was a beautiful post!!!


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